Book of the Month! I am recommending some reading material to some of my coachees and as such, I thought I would share these books, articles and videos with you. I will share more of my work during 2020 in the shape of podcasts, the launch of my Youtube channel and new publications. For now, I would like to review the book of the Month “The Four Agreements”.
I like many of you are shocked by the news of the death of Caroline Flack. There is an outpouring of grieve for the star. I am filled with sadness today, as in my work I try to coach and support people to live a better life but too often I see the ugly side of people. I have also realised that I am not prepared to be around individuals who are negative and who try to control and abuse others for their own agenda.
I want to use my platform, to call people out because we have all gone too far with our careless words and actions. Our words affect people and I do not want to be part of a world that disrespects, hurts and dishonours others. I have shared the following book as a start for anyone who is wanting to change their lives.
This book gives you insights and a practical guide to personal freedom, by Don Miguel Ruiz. This is a wonderful book for stress management and personal growth. It’s written in simple language but deals with complex themes that can help you bring sweeping changes to your life.
Agreement 1: Be Impeccable With Your Word
Ruiz states that while this agreement is the most important, it is the most difficult one to honour. For this agreement, Ruiz first analyzes the word “impeccable”. The word Impeccable comes from the Latin word peccatus meaning “sin”, and the “I’m” in the beginning of impeccable is the Latin prefix that means “without”. Ruiz describes a sin to be anything that goes against oneself, and therefore being impeccable with language means to take responsibility for one’s actions and remain without judgment against oneself and others. In essence, this agreement focuses on the significance of speaking with integrity and carefully choosing words before saying them aloud.
Agreement 2: Don’t Take Anything Personally
The second agreement provides readers with a way to deal with hurtful treatment from others that they may experience in life. It advocates the importance of having a strong sense of self and not needing to rely on the opinions of others in order to be content and satisfied with their self-image. This agreement also allows readers to understand the notion that each individual has a unique worldview that alters their own perceptions, and that the actions and beliefs of a person is a projection of their own personal reality. Ruiz believes that anger, jealousy, envy, and even sadness can lessen or dissipate once an individual stops taking things personally.
Agreement 3: Don’t Make Assumptions
The third agreement describes the issue of making assumptions, how it leads to suffering, and why individuals should not partake in making them. When one assumes what others are thinking, it can create stress and interpersonal conflict because the person believes their assumption is a representation of the truth. Ruiz believes that a solution to overcoming the act of making an assumption is to ask questions and ensure that communication is clear between the persons involved. Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama by not making assumptions.
Agreement 4: Always Do Your Best
The fourth agreement allows readers to have better insight on achieving progress towards their goals in life. This agreement entails integrating the first three agreements into daily life and also living to one’s full potential. It involves doing the best that one can individually manage, which varies from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if one avoids self-judgement and does their best in every given moment, they will be able to avoid regret. By incorporating the first three agreements and doing the best they can in all facets of life, individuals will be able to live a life free from sorrow and self-ridicule.
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